This is the most common question I have received, and one I sought to learn about over the years – even meeting other yoni masseurs and women in Singapore to find out more. And yes, I have even worked with female yoni masseurs too.
The simple answer to this is, yes. Yes, every woman has the capability to squirt. However, there are quite a lot of factors that can be barriers to that happening.
Biggest barrier to squirting – Embarrassed to “pee” in front of partner
This is the most common issue with most women. To those who have visited me and have never squirted before, I usually ask them this one question.
“Have you ever felt like peeing when you were having sex?”
Almost all of them said yes but they held back because they thought they were gonna pee. They were embarrassed to pee in front of their partners and wet the bed. That feeling also causes anxiety and as we all know, anxiety isn’t great for sexy time.
That very peeing sensation is you being on the verge of your squirting. Some find it hard to “ease” their muscles up as it’s an unnatural thing for them to do in such a situation. It may take a few tries until your body learns how to do it.
Is squirt really pee?
Studies have shown that while the liquid comes out of your urethra (where your pee comes from), the liquid that squirts out is usually a mix of pee and other secretions. To quote this piece of research from Oz Harmanli, MD, chief of urogynecology and reconstructive pelvic surgery at Yale Medicine:
“Squirts often contain something called prostate-specific antigen, a protein found in semen, which suggests that women do have the ability to come sort of like guys do. Some experts say that protein comes from the skene’s glands, aka the female prostate, located on either side of the urethra. But, he adds, ‘there is no gland or reservoir in the female body, other than the bladder, that can produce the amount of fluid that is released with squirting.'”
From my experience, some women’s squirts do smell a little bit like pee so if you’re squirmish, maybe this isn’t for you.
Not all squirting involves a female orgasm
I’ve had to learn this from women. That while they squirt often during an orgasm, it doesn’t always happen this way. There are moment where they squirt and they don’t cum. It still feels great but it wasn’t an orgasm.
How do I massage the g-spot and make them cum/squirt?
In theory, all you have to do is massage the g-spot at the location you see in the diagram below.
However, there are a lot of factors that go into making sure she gets to fully enjoy the experience. More than just technique, she’s gotta be totally calm and relaxed.
Next, her frame of mind has to be tuned in to being turned on so that means working on your foreplay – your communication and dirty talk, teasing, making her feel wanted and attractive.
Many have asked me to coach them in the right techniques in making the ladies cum but if you don’t work on engaging and connecting with her, no technique will get her to enjoy your company.
To the ladies: Don’t worry too much about whether you can squirt or not. What’s most important is that you enjoy the company of your partner and have a good time.